Understanding the Difference Between Coercive Control and a Controlling Partner
Coercive control and “being a controlling partner” are not the same, although both involve power dynamics in relationships. While a “controlling partner” may show behaviours such as jealousy or possessiveness, coercive control is far more pervasive and damaging. Coercive control isn’t just about wanting influence; it’s a pattern of psychological abuse aimed at breaking down a person’s independence, self-worth, and freedom. This distinction is crucial because understanding coercive control helps individuals recognise when control moves beyond ordinary relationship issues into dangerous territory.
At Family Violence Mindset Solutions, we explore these distinctions in our Coercive Control Course, guiding individuals to differentiate between common relationship dynamics and harmful abuse.
Key Differences Between Coercive Control and Controlling Behaviour
- Purpose and Intent – A controlling partner may have insecurities that drive certain behaviours, whereas coercive control involves a calculated effort to dominate and restrict freedom.
- Isolation from Support Networks – Coercive control frequently involves isolating the victim from family and friends, leaving them emotionally dependent on the abuser and limiting any paths of escape.
- Psychological Manipulation and Fear – Coercive control often includes tactics like gaslighting and emotional manipulation, which are intended to make the victim doubt their reality and feel powerless.
- Permeates Every Aspect of Life – A “controlling partner” may overstep in specific areas, but coercive control impacts nearly every facet of the victim’s life, including finances, social interactions, and personal choices.
Through our course at Family Violence Mindset Solutions, we educate individuals about recognising these red flags, allowing them to better understand when normal relational issues escalate into coercive control. Learn more about recognising coercive behaviours that extend beyond typical relationship dynamics.
Recognising Coercive Control for What It Is
Understanding the line between control and coercive control is crucial for maintaining autonomy in relationships. Family Violence Mindset Solutions offers the tools and insights necessary to identify and address coercive control, empowering individuals to build healthier relationships. Contact us for more guidance on recognising harmful control dynamics.