
Psychological Tactics Abusers Use for Manipulation
When it comes to abusive relationships, it’s often not just about physical harm – emotional and psychological manipulation is just as dangerous. Unfortunately, abusers often use certain tactics to control and dominate their partner, making them feel trapped or confused. Let’s take a look at the sneaky psychological tricks they use.
What You’ll Learn:
Recognising Gaslighting
- You’ll learn how abusers manipulate your sense of reality by denying things they’ve done or said, making you second-guess your own memory and perception.
Understanding Blame Shifting
- You’ll discover how abusers always find a way to blame you for problems, even when they’re the ones at fault. This tactic leaves you feeling guilty for things that aren’t your responsibility.
Spotting Isolation Tactics
- You’ll learn how abusers use isolation to cut you off from your support system, making you more dependent on them, so you feel like you have nowhere to turn.
Recognising Love Bombing
- You’ll learn how an abuser may overwhelm you with affection at the start of the relationship to gain your trust and control, only to withdraw it later to keep you insecure.
Dealing with Victim Playing
- You’ll gain insight into how abusers manipulate you by playing the victim, making you feel sorry for them instead of focusing on their abusive behaviour.
Identifying Constant Criticism
- You’ll be able to recognise how constant negative feedback can be used to chip away at your self-esteem, making you feel like you’re never good enough, which helps the abuser maintain control.

Now that you’ve learned some of the key psychological tactics abusers use, it’s time to take action. If you or someone you care about is experiencing emotional or psychological manipulation, it’s important to reach out for help. Don’t let anyone make you feel less than you are.
Here’s what you can do:
- Talk to someone you trust: Reach out to a mate, family member, or professional.
- Seek support: Call Lifeline on 13 11 14 for confidential advice or speak to a therapist who can help.
- Know you’re not alone: There are resources and people who care and want to help you break free from manipulation.
Remember, you deserve to feel safe and respected in all relationships. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.